Its funny how in relationships, something that starts off as a small disagreement can escalate into a huge problem in a short amount of time. We need to understand human’s makes relationship; there will never be a perfect relationship cos we humans aren’t perfect. There are facts that cut across every relationship. Check them out
There is a purpose for everyone you meet. – Some people will test you, some will use you, and some will teach you; but most importantly some will bring out the best in you. Learn to see and accept the differences between these people, and carry on accordingly. Again, I want you to remember that not all people you meet you will treat you right.
Remember your partner is going to change with respect with time…its normal . – Our personality and needs change with time. When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing. Sometimes it just means you stopped living your life their way. Don’t apologize for it. Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
Successful relationships entail some work. They don’t just happen, come on a sliver platter or better still, maintain themselves. They exist and thrive when the parties involved take the risk of sharing what it is that’s going on in their minds and hearts. Open communication and honesty is the key. Take note of that. The truth is that relationships take work and effort and not just in the early days – they are work in progress. Every so often there needs to be a big ‘check in’ to see if you are still both on the same path as well as those smaller regular efforts to keep in touch with each other emotionally. Engaging with a therapist can help you air your feelings in a safe environment and support you to build new patterns that suit the people you are now rather than the people you were when you met
Don’t go into a relationship to change someone. You can’t change people; they can only change themselves. – Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example. Remember the saying which goes that “leadership by example”. If there’s a specific behavior someone you love has that you’re hoping disappears over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something, be honest and put all the cards on the table so this person knows what you need them to do.
Spending time apart strengthens your bond.
Sure, it’s important to hang out with your guy. But experts now know that it’s almost as important not to hang out with him every so often. “When you take time away from each other, it gives you both the opportunity to collect new thoughts, new stories, and new ideas to share. But the benefits extend beyond having novel tidbits of conversation. When you’re with someone in the moment, you’re not really spending time thinking about them. When you’re distanced, you really think about the person and yearn for them, and you look forward to seeing them again.”
