Most guys don’t even attempt to understand the profound relationship between a woman and her shoes.
That’s fair. But if you’re looking for insight about her personality—whether she’s extroverted or introverted, fiery or laid-back—her feet are exactly where you want to be glancing. (forgive me but if feet can turn you off maybe you should reconsider before looking… just saying)
Skeptical? Science has our back: A 2012 study from the University of Kansas found that people are able to accurately judge 90 percent of a stranger’s personality, including their emotional stability, simply by looking at their most-worn pair of shoes. For example, “agreeable” people tended to wear “practical, functional” shoes, while “aggressive” personalities had an affinity for ankle boots.
According to the study authors, shoes can—and do—carry individual different information, because there’s so much variety.
“The way a woman dresses telegraphs many messages about her. It’s wise to check out her shoes for clues about who she is and how she’ll behave,” says relationship expert April Masini, author of Date Out of Your League.
So let your eyes make a beeline for her kicks. Here are three things you can tell about a woman from her footwear.
Her Confidence Level
The style of her shoes can tell you whether she’ll be confident-verging-on-cocky, or a little more down to earth. Women in revealing, high-heeled sandals are more likely to be confident naked than women in closed-toe heels, You can tell a lot about how a woman grooms the rest of her body by how she takes care of her feet. If there’s a neat, sexy pedicure going on, expect neat and sexy grooming elsewhere. No pedicure? No grooming elsewhere.
Meanwhile, wedges and low, wide heels—not flats—may indicate insecurity. Women wearing wedges want to appear taller without the discomfort of high heels. They may be a little more middle-of-the-road. Also, the wider and shorter the heels on a woman’s shoes, the more insecure she might be.
Her Personality Type
Not surprisingly, women sporting brightly colored shoes tend to be more playful, bigger risk takers, and more extroverted. But if she’s wearing hot pink sandals or neon yellow pumps, you may be looking at a woman who’s just a little high maintenance. Peacock tendencies mean she’ll be more challenging, and may even expect to be put on a pedestal. If this is your thing—and for many guys, it is—go for it.
If you’re looking for someone more laid-back, psychologists suggest checking out women in flats or flat boots. Ballerina flats mean she’s a woman who puts comfort above style. She’s literally down to earth. Women wearing flip-flops—if they’re not at the beach—may be too laid-back. She’s just grabbing something to put on her feet because she has to and she could be pretty free-wheeling about other aspects of her life as well.
Also, women in sneakers may not be as low maintenance and laid-back as you’d expect. A woman in sneakers is on the go. She may be getting ready to jog or play tennis, or just wearing them for the walk to work, but she’s ready for action.
Her Personal Branding
Do her shoes look like they cost ?80 or ?800? (and yes don’t be fooled , some of the shoes ladies wear cost a whole lot). If she’s wearing designer pumps—and you can usually tell this by seeing if they stand out from the rest of the outfit—you’re looking at a woman who invests in herself and values personal style and comfort. If she’s wearing an expensive pair of work shoes—closed-toe, conservative pumps—she probably values her work a lot. If she’s got on a pair of expensive riding boots, she’s the kind of person who likes to splurge on luxuries.
“Expensiveness” was also factored into the Psychological Study at the University of Kansas. Researchers found that liberals tended to wear shabbier, cheaper shoes than conservatives. Bottom line: A woman who spends half a month’s rent on a pair of shoes is likely to have a more demanding personality, but the good news is that she can probably afford all her luxuries on her own.